I know exactly what you are going through Eunice. I am a member of the United Methodist Church, born and raised. I love this church. I am a firm believer in the principles of John Wesley and the faith and the ideas which he espoused. And yet, I look at my church, and I can only come to the conclusion that John Wesley would roll over in his grave if he knew some of the stuff going on with us.
What happened in the Episcopal Church this week could very well be happening in the UMC fifteen, ten, heck, maybe just five years from now. The UMC is afraid to take ANY kind of stand that will offend progressive thought from the East Coast of the United States. In the last thirty years, we have caved in on the Bible as absolute truth, we have caved in on ecumenicalism, we have caved in on evolution, we have caved in on women pastors, we have caved in on abortion, and now the cry is emanating from the "progressive" wing of our church that we should now cave on homosexuality. Already I have seen news stories of Methodist ministers blessing gay unions and performing civil unions for gay couples on the two coasts. And my church's stance on the whole deal with Iraq was absolutely appalling. I could live with them being against this war for a variety of reasons (except humanitarian, because as evil as Hussein was to the Iraqi people, that argument was simply a non-starter), I could even live with them being against ANY war out of principle. But many UMC bishops went out of their way to take cheap, partisan shots at President Bush, himself a Methodist (Archbishop Griswold, leader of the Episcopal Church in the U.S., did the same thing with Bush Sr. in the Gulf War, as I recall. He attacked W as well). One even took out a full page ad in the New York Times questioning whether or not our President was even a true Christian.
I don't even go to University UMC down here at LSU. They actually let the anti-war loons (they were more than just anti-war, they were vicious Ameri-haters) meet and plan events at the church. The only reason I stay is because I still go to church with my folks when I'm back home, and it's still a good Methodist church, where they actually still talk about Jesus. But I am getting fed up, and I don't think me or my future family can grow spiritually if I stay. I'm probably headed over to the Southern Baptist Convention (the Church I was raised to view as "The Dark Side") really soon, because they seem to me to be the last mainstream Protestant denomination that fully holds to the Bible as the complete, absolute true word of God and MEANS IT and FOLLOWS IT. Catholicism is great, but I just have too many doctrinal differences with them (the whole saints thing and all). Unless I see some drastic changes in the UMC, I will have no choice. While it hurts to leave the church I love and grew up in, I just cannot rest easy knowing what's going on. I have to do what I know God expects of his true believers. I want to be able to go to church again without feeling weird about it.
Many more have left before me. The UMC is now down to 7 million members nation wide, a distant second. And our bishops are wondering why the Baptists are whipping us in membership. Either they just don't get it, or just don't want to see the truth.